The following a list of sentence starters that launch good vibes (and I'm sure you could add more) from Psychology Today. Consider deciding to add more of them to your conversational routine, especially if it feels like your close relationships need a bit of rekindling, and see what happens:
- Yes...
"Yes, going swimming sounds great." ["Yes... but.." has the opposite impact; but negates the positivity of the Yes.] - I agree...
"I agree that it's too hot to do any exercise other than swimming today." - I appreciate..."I appreciate your willingness to pack a lunch."
- Thank you for...
"Thanks so much for getting me moving. I was stuck on my couch all day." - I like (love, enjoy) ...
"I like that suit! Looks terrific!" [and to initiate action, "I would like to ..."] - That makes sense to me because...
"Bringing lunch makes sense to me because the food at the pool is so expensive." - I'm pleased (happy, delighted) that... "I'm pleased that you invited those guys to join us."
- Good! (Excellent, Great, Wow, Cool, Terrific, etc.) "Great! Let's hop in the car."
- How...?/What...?
[These open-ended question words convey interest in the other.] "How are you feeling about driving since you hurt your arm?" "Whathave you heard lately from your Mom?" - Positive non-verbals.
Positive words have even more impact when spoken in an enthusiastic tone that conveys genuine interest. Smiles, laughter, playfulness, eye contact, and, with intimates, hugs and other physical expressions of affection also go along way toward generating god feelings.
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